pollyesther

Thank you sandm, we have done a few of the family meetings so far and they have been great for all of us. Life is flowing a lot smoother in the family now that we spend some time together talking in turn (usually) and listening to eachother much better. We haven't yet done the family picture, but we will when we can. I hope all is well with you, God bless you

sandm

Thank you for your message, pollyesther. I`m so glad to hear about your proceedings. You `ll see, that each step further on now is going to be better and easier. Even if there might be a step back, this ony would be a "run-up" for a next big step coming.

I just see your whole consolidated family covering a wide range of abilities, knowledge and qualities. So in my imagination there is such a silhouette appearing - and it is "well formed". - *Concerning the other familiy pic-question you are already doing: Before you start, dont forget whom you want to show it*.) As I already have said, Im with you as long as it takes. Although it`s not easy to communicate from a distance in this case, please dont hesitate for specific request. It then would be easier to give a "better response".

So, I`m well - sometimes busy by doing some notes for my next book (sort of "memories - you wont believe") meanwhile there are reliable and serious interested supporters and finishing a math puzzle (too many variables for one equation) by a very nice tool-set.
I wish you a calm and peaceful time before Christmas, to get yourself in this true quality of time. Ive read your prayers on this site there. Take the "thoughts of God" with you, they are your "bigger body", wherever you`ll walk - without hurry.
My heart is with you.

prizmspect

My own name woke me out of a deep sleep somewhere near half past 2 am. It was my Dad's voice, so audible that I wondered if he was actually outside my window. I was haunted by it and he is living. This isn't the first time that has happened. He lives near me (within about 10 miles) and I see him every couple of weeks or so. I love him, but I can't trust him. It is difficult for me to spend time around him. He is mentally disabled, delusional, and there is always anticipation of the very unstable side sort of vomiting angry nonsense at anyone who may be close by. It could be and has been my children at times. This makes me angrier than anything or anyone else has made me. I am not generally an angry person, but just the thought of spending time around him...well it just makes me angry, irritated, and nervous--especially if my children will be there. I think sometimes I'd like to just write him off for good. I don't want to do that...I do forgive him but the anger won't go away. I've always wanted to help him somehow, but no amount of talking to him will change it ( I have tried--a very frustrating endeavor ). He always comes back around sort of redeeming himself with good behavior, then when I least expect it, bam! he goes off. I suppose I should have posted this in prayer requests...but for some reason I didn't. ( If you are reading this and you pray, please pray)It is a matter of his free will in combination with his mental problems. I don't know really how to handle myself around him, but I feel like I should somehow learn. I understand that he has problems, but he also has choices.
Sorry to dump this on your channel sandm, but I had to put it somewhere.
I feel torn. I want to find peace.

sandm

Have read your message. Its ok to post it here, dont worry. Guess I do understand. Free will, supported by holy spirit and the love of God is much stronger than any mental problems, but it takes time. I`ll pray for you! Additionally, you could consider to take a professional help. They have much experience in such problems and you wont be alone to manage it. I am praying for you and I am sending peace to you with my thoughts. God bless you.

pollyesther

I'm interested in your book, and best wishes for it. Thank you for being so helpful and offering your thoughts. We still haven't made the family picture yet, we will though and i look forward to it=) Blessings through the holidays and the new year to come<3

sandm

Instead of my own thought of the day (my brain is still sleeping a bit) I "must" write the following, which ÃŒve searched for more than one hour, finally found it because I remembered the picture on it. I didnt even remember the text itself !!! but I knew, it would be the right one for now, for what I want to say, and it is. (Could only find the German version and I dont want to translate it)

Es ist nicht das Unbekannte, vor dem wir Angst haben müssen, es ist das Bekannte, das wir "fürchten" sollten.
Das Bekannte, das sind die rigiden Muster unserer vergangenen Konditionierungen. Sie halten uns in den gleichen rigiden Verhaltensmustern gefangen.

Wenn wir aber in jedem Augenblick unseres Lebens in das UNBEKANNTE treten können, dann sind wir frei. Und das Unbekannte, das ist das Feld unendlicher Möglichkeiten, das Feld reinen Potenzials, das, WAS WIR WIRKLICH SIND.
(Deepak Chopra)

sandm

Seems to be the day of quotations..:) Today Ive read a few pages about Hegel in a short abstract (Still problems to read a book) and I couldnt find me "in" there. I wouldnt consider it being wrong, but not very crucial. And Ive forgotten all about him, since Im not so deep in this matter.
I already mentioned, that all these theories of philosophy arent really satisfying to me, but if I had to chose one (of all those I know), it was Schopenhauer.
"Die Welt als Wille und Vorstellung", I have it in my library, and Ive a small book of quotations. And this small one I found just now while searching the document above. And I opened the book and out comes the following:

Die unmittelbare Realität ist durch eigens Bewußtsein bedingt. Also liegt auch das individuelle reale Dasein des Menschen zunächst in seinem Bewußtsein...

Man lasse den guten Gedanken nur den Plan frei, sie werden kommen. Eben deshalb soll man auch nicht in jedem unbeschäftigten Augenblick sogleich nach einem Buche greifen, sondern lasse es doch einmal stille werden im Kopf, dann kann sich leicht etwas Gutes darin erheben...

Alles Urdenken geschieht in Bildern. ..

sandm

Since I opened this channel here, I want to make some basic remarks to the "male and female" issue, esp. as this is a main part of the "AND not OR" subject, but till now I didnt (dont know why, has not been the right time, probably). Although my brain is still sleeping a bit, I am going to start with this now and hopefully I`ll get it right.
So I am starting with a short excerpt of my own documentation of a seminar course I ve hold several times (a few years ago), titled "the future is female".
....
Besides the well known definition of the two parts of the brain and the necessity of their working together, there is another aspect on male and female qualities, which is more related to the concept of Yin-Yang, and in my opinion it is much more important:

If you consider the balance of male/female to be like a pair of scales, then, in case of unbalance, there are always both sides concerned.

Now, the male side represents qualities as: movement, change, specialisation, fragmentation, analysis, detail, facts and figures, logic ...
and the female side: structure, relationship, order, connection, integration! intuition, etc.

That means, in case of unbalance: male > female (too much "male" and not enough female) the result is as follows: "top-heavy", rigid, inflexible, lonely, chaotic, overly intellectual, lost in details, fragmented, dismissing, loose of overview, reduced contact to earth, missing "unity" ....etc.

And it means, that healing and balancing one side "automatically" effects the other one too.

Now, what is "regaining the female power"? It does not mean entering the next beauty farm, buy new shoes or get your hair styled
The most important female quality which is missed so often is the quality of INTEGRATION, and related to this .... the ability of building bridges and connections, the quality of tolerance, the quality of viewing "the whole before the detail" as well as the ability of recognising coherences. .....

All these qualities are basic requirements for establishing PEACE in the world.
And it is up to women AND men to develop this "female side" of mankind, which is and will be essential .. for our immediate present and future.

sandm

Thought of the day (1)
Brain now slowly starts working (living!) - it is the "female brain", the connection to intuition, creativity, the non-linear world and the spiritual dimensions. In case of extreme injury of the soul, this part is going to sleep and only the other (logical) side remains more or less living. (In complex tasks more "less" than "more":) .. in correspondence to the Yin-Yang-balance. )
It is a survival mode. Most of the psychotherapist I know, didnt understand this process... and real healiing finally came from the spiritual side, supported by persons, who really live in both worlds.
And sometimes, if/when the past becomes bigger than the present, the brain is going to sleep, a bit, for a while,..but it is a sleep of recovery.

sandm

Thought of the day (2)
Rather a thought of the night, the dialing God image has built a connection and I found the following "notice" somewhere .. to come out:

"This connection is YOUR own, personal, individual part within your soul/spirit system. First of all it is the connection to YOUR inner spiritual light.
It nothing has to do with "church" or "priests" in its basic sense.
While "working in gravity" - in case of past "bad experiences" unfortunately, this part can be "lost". It seems to be lost, actually it is "sleeping". But this never can be the answer. Because then, all those "bad energies" of those persons acting in the past, still wouldl have their influence. And this isnt true, you know. They cant claim spirit for their purpose! How should they! Its not possible!
It only is YOUR path, and "the track is clear."
Now, this "argument" is mainly speaking to the "left side of the brain". But even the left side is able to be a constructive and reliable helper to open and to experience the other inner dimensions, finding your inner light, which always has been waiting for you."

sandm

Thoughts of the day:
(1) I am really glad about the sequence of the steps I did here today, so I made two comments into my own pictures .. before I checked my updates and then looked into the forum. Well, I mean its good, they were already made, they are true, however.

(2) Im a bit confused, because Danilas brother is on facebook and I didnt know about him. ... But Im not on facebook, so in fact I dont know anything - as usual one could say. This facebook thing is quiet a strange matter. Just as I decided finally to open an accout there, a few days ago, it happened again, that such an easy process didnt work. Nobody knows why, and two other persons, knowing facebook, tried it too - without success.

(3) There is much to think about knowing and believing for me today. If you know, that in fact you dont know .. ok there has been a guy who already said this. And it isnt the crucial point. The question is, what do/can I believe still .. (I mean in "reality" not in "religion", otherwise it was easy) . May be Ive read too many stories of death and illness here on TD?

sandm

The first birthdate I got here after my offer was of Sissel Kyrkjebø, an Norwegian soprano. ; born 24 June 1969, When I add the single digits of this date: 2+4+6+1+9+6+9=37, 37 would be the result, thats the number which is needed. But I dont want to research this date.
Ive an interesting result for 35, but I dont know if anybody here wants to know about it, ... could also be a wrong number, as so many others.

sandm

By the way: Its very easy to talk with me... as it is to an old friend.

Normal

Hi S&M! Especially enjoyed the Deepak Chopra quote.
Regarding your yin/yang musings, I hope you have read:
WHEN GOD WAS A WOMAN, 1976, Merlin Stone. (Published originally in Britain as "The Paradise Papers")
THE CHALICE AND THE BLADE, 1987, Riane Eisler.

sandm

Hi Normal, fine you came in here. When God was a Woman, I know of it, but havent read, the other one is "Kelch und Schwert", I have it, and I ve read it. (Ive so many books, Ivent yet read). .. And I have "a course in wonders", which you know... I found your remark here somewhere.
In this book, there are 2 parts, the theory for reading and the exercises. One exercise for a day during a whole year. Did you make them too? They are a real good training for the brain/thoughts. The knowing is not enough, to be able to do it, that is necessary. I am sure, you know this, but ev. you could make these exercises again? And thx for your comments.

sandm

I found another text, which is related to the message of the Deepak Chopra quote. It is more a meditation text, named "Ich ruhe sicher":

Ich ruhe sicher
auf dem Grunde meines Seins.

Deshalb bin ich geborgen und
kann mich mit größter Freiheit und Freude
in allen Dimensionen meiner Realität bewegen.

Die Vergangenheit hat keine Macht über mich,
denn ich lebe in der Kraft der Gegenwart
und im Wissen um meine eigene Macht und Realität.


The first sentence is the most important, all other is following.

sandm

I dont know, if the following is already know here.... so it is the case of most of my remarks .. a blindflight, .. anyway.
I just looked in Rüdiger Dahlke, "Krankheit als Symbol", describing the mental background of illness, but not only illness, a lot of other explanations from accidents to loss of hairs etc. are in there. So I read the (very short) conclusion about the mental background concerning the body of a good friend. Well, the conclusion is not rather surprising, as we know the yin-yang and its importance for all humans. But here it says, *this* is the higher reason for "choosing" the body. ..."die beiden Seiten der menschlichen Existenz in sich erleben und jeder zu ihrem Recht verhelfen. Yin und Yang miteinander versöhnen! (Die Aufgabe, die normalerweise im Alter verstärkt anfällt, während eines ganzen Lebens lösen.) Die chymische Hochzeit !!! im Bewusstsein !! vollziehen."

I dont know if this is helpful, but maybe it can explain the past, bc an either/or never could have been successful. I can imagine that "all participants" (esp. parents) were highly overwhelmed in our world of rules and a lot of other additional pain... but I dont want to write about a past I dont know. So, how is this integration in real life to live - with good feeling - there only can be an individual answer which already has been found ( I strongly hope so) and both sides first find their place in conciousness.. and all other parts know where to go.

Normal

I certainly agree with Herr Dalke. My "Course in Miracles" group has met weekly for nearly three years - with some changes in membership. As to the "Lessons" section, possibly the most important, two years ago I started on 1 January and got about halfway through. Then some travel threw me off and I did not get back to the recommended one-a-day approach. Some people have a problem because the earlierst ones seem quite strange, but the lessons are the most beautiful and concise expression of the message, I think. Maybe this is the year I pick them up again.

sandm

Yes, the lessons are the "tool" to bring it into life. I highly recommend you to start again, may be I can help you to stay with it firmly. Well, let me know. My book unfortunately is in German and it is - in my opinion - a very bad translation and that has been the reason for me to change to an other practice. But the German translation would not be a problem to accompany the lessons.

ad Dahlke: 1) The mentioned book could also be of interest for Steve.
2) There is point in his Yin-yang view, I dont agree. "Die Aufgabe, die normalerweise im Alter verstärkt anfällt". Yesterday, I wrote it here, as it was said, without commentation, but as I can see, he refers too strongly to a Yin=female body and Yang=male body binding and this is against all my experience. I know more men having mainly Yin attributes and women living in the Yang-side, than people in "corresponding" energies. May be this is a result of my "angy"-status, which draws me to those people. But on the other hand, I am convinced, that the (sex)/gender does not have/make this influence, the "general opinion" gives to it .

sandm

I am still sandm, the meaning is S(un)andm(oon) and I made this abbreviation purposely. Moreover I prefer abbr. containing 5 characters instead of 3.